I’ve been there, wondering how to get my life together. There is no denying how overwhelmed we all are amidst global pandemics, natural disasters, political challenges, economic downturns, family drama, and work deadlines. It’s enough to make anyone throw up their hands, jump in bed, and pull the covers over their head until 2030. Yet, every storm has an end, and you are strong enough to weather it.
When you are overwhelmed, you feel like things are too much to deal with. Put simply, there is an all-consuming sentiment that emotions are just too strong. Overwhelming can be situational or general.
Situational overwhelm is linked to a particular set of circumstances, like when there is a big project due at work, but you are not sure if it will go well and your promotion is hanging in the balance. General overwhelm is linked to the everyday pressures of showing up for yourself and others. Regardless of which type of overwhelm you encounter, it can be a truly challenging ordeal.
Everyone gets overwhelmed from time to time, but overwhelm doesn’t have to upend your progress or thrust you into a downward spiral. To help you navigate these treacherous waters, here are some tips to help you get your life back together when you feel totally overwhelmed.
1. Slow It Down
The first thing you need to do when you feel flooded or overwhelmed is to slow everything down. The sensation you are feeling is like an alarm. Your body and spirit are trying to bring your awareness to something important, and now they have your attention. To process the data you are being given and assess what is happening, you have to slow everything down.
The breath is your best tool for slowing it down. The power of your breath is incredible. Since the respiratory, circulatory, and nervous systems are connected, any intentional manipulation of the breath is going to directly affect your blood pressure and emotional state.
I’ve been there, wondering how to get my life together. There is no denying how overwhelmed we all are amidst global pandemics, natural disasters, political challenges, economic downturns, family drama, and work deadlines. It’s enough to make anyone throw up their hands, jump in bed, and pull the covers over their head until 2030. Yet, every storm has an end, and you are strong enough to weather it.
When you are overwhelmed, you feel like things are too much to deal with. Put simply, there is an all-consuming sentiment that emotions are just too strong. Overwhelming can be situational or general.
Situational overwhelm is linked to a particular set of circumstances, like when there is a big project due at work, but you are not sure if it will go well and your promotion is hanging in the balance. General overwhelm is linked to the everyday pressures of showing up for yourself and others. Regardless of which type of overwhelm you encounter, it can be a truly challenging ordeal.
Everyone gets overwhelmed from time to time, but overwhelm doesn’t have to upend your progress or thrust you into a downward spiral. To help you navigate these treacherous waters, here are some tips to help you get your life back together when you feel totally overwhelmed.
2. Step Back, Reflect, and Reframe
If you’re wondering how to get your life together, it’s time to step back and reflect on what led up to the overwhelm. Some good questions to ask yourself are:
- Did I put too much on my plate?
- If so, who can help me?
- What can I set aside for now?
- Am I prepared enough?
- If not, what else can I do to prepare?
- Is there anything getting in the way of my preparation?
- Were there signs I ignored that would have kept me from getting to this point?
- Is there any self-sabotage at play?
- What is the single most important thing I can do right now that will move me toward my long-term goal and personal development?
Reflecting is great because it helps you to sort through the data you received from being overwhelmed. Taking the time to decipher this data will also help you to better understand what your body is trying to tell you in the future if you experience these sensations again.
3. Release, Regroup, and Redirect
Release
It’s easier said than done, but when it comes to overwhelming the best thing you can do is let it go. Your effort to slow down, step back, reflect, and reframe has made it a lot easier for you to release the cause of your overwhelm.
Once I gave myself permission to reframe failing the bar, I could release it without any regrets. The release of the source of overwhelm is critical to the “getting my life back together” component of this process.
Regroup
To truly get your life back together, you have to regroup and redirect. The overwhelm put a chink in your chain, which halted your progress. Now that the chink has been worked out, you can place your chain back on the cogs and get back to work.
Regrouping is important because it allows you to close the feedback loop on all the slowing down, stepping back, reflecting, reframing, and releasing. It is like a metaphorical period in the sentence of the lived experience. It allows you to hit the reset button, and with all you know now, you can move forward in an informed, prepared, and empowered manner.
Redirect
The last act is to redirect. Thankfully, all your work leading up to this moment will make it much easier for you to identify your new trajectory. Remember that redirecting doesn’t mean you must move in a radically new direction; even if your trajectory only slightly altered its course, that’s ok!
What is most important is that you have processed, integrated, and learned from your overwhelm so that you are both better prepared for future overwhelm and more equipped to avoid it altogether.
Final Thoughts
We have all been overwhelmed and wondering how to get our lives together. However, your progress doesn’t need to be completely compromised because life throws you problematic situations or toxic people. You are strong enough to overcome it and get your life back on track.
When you are feeling overwhelmed, remember to slow it down by using your breath. Give yourself permission to step back and reflect on what led to the feeling of overwhelm because there is valuable data there. Reclaim your power by reframing the experience and releasing the source of overwhelm.
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